loveisrespect:

What is Gaslighting?
You’re crazy - that never happened.
Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory.
It’s all in your head.
Does your significant other say things like this to you a lot? Do you often start questioning what’s really true – or even your own sanity – within your relationship? If so, your partner may be using what mental health professionals call “gaslighting.”
This term comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights (which were powered by gas) in their home, and then he denies that the light changed when his wife points it out. It is a very effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship.
Signs of being a victim of gaslighting (Stern, 2009) include:
You constantly second-guess yourself.
You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” multiple times a day.
You often feel confused and even crazy.
You’re always apologizing to your partner.
You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happier.
You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.
You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.
You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself.
You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists.
You have trouble making simple decisions.
You have the sense that you used to be a very different person - more confident, more fun-loving, more relaxed.
You feel hopeless and joyless.
You feel as though you can’t do anything right.
You wonder if you are a “good enough” partner.
If any of these signs ring true for you, give us a call at 1-866-331-9474, chat online, or text loveis to 22522. Our advocates are here to support and listen to you!
[Head over to loveisrespect.org to read this blogpost in its entirety.]

loveisrespect:

What is Gaslighting?

  • You’re crazy - that never happened.
  • Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory.
  • It’s all in your head.

Does your significant other say things like this to you a lot? Do you often start questioning what’s really true – or even your own sanity – within your relationship? If so, your partner may be using what mental health professionals call “gaslighting.”

This term comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights (which were powered by gas) in their home, and then he denies that the light changed when his wife points it out. It is a very effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship.

Signs of being a victim of gaslighting (Stern, 2009) include:

  • You constantly second-guess yourself.
  • You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” multiple times a day.
  • You often feel confused and even crazy.
  • You’re always apologizing to your partner.
  • You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happier.
  • You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.
  • You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.
  • You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself.
  • You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists.
  • You have trouble making simple decisions.
  • You have the sense that you used to be a very different person - more confident, more fun-loving, more relaxed.
  • You feel hopeless and joyless.
  • You feel as though you can’t do anything right.
  • You wonder if you are a “good enough” partner.

If any of these signs ring true for you, give us a call at 1-866-331-9474, chat online, or text loveis to 22522. Our advocates are here to support and listen to you!

[Head over to loveisrespect.org to read this blogpost in its entirety.]

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Hey everyone, my best friend’s dog, Monty, has developed cancer.

this week they brought him to the vet for a routine checkup and found out that a couple of the bumps on his body are cancerous.

He and his family are crowd sourcing because the cancer is operable but very expensive, and his family is trying to find a way to pay for the surgery. Monty’s only six, still full of life and love and is sincerely the sweetest, most loving dog you will ever meet. Everyone that meets him instantly falls in love with him, just look at that face. We all really don’t want to see him go if we can do anything about it.

So this is a plea to anyone who knows or has ever known the love of a canine best friend and wants to contribute by making a donation to Monty’s Crowdsite page. please click on THIS LINK to donate to Monty’s family and help raise enough cash to cover the surgery of their dog, which is about $2000. They’re doing the best they can, but every little bit helps. And please by all means spread the word about Monty, reblog, tell your mum, phone Ellen Degeneres or Denny’s, etc.

Please help save our buddy.

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  • age: 15!!!!!
  • gender: agender/gendervoid (dfab)
  • pronouns: u can use they/them but i'd like it pronouns too. if you really needed to (b/c gender binary) you could use he/him, but pls use they/them or better yet it/its when you can (but if you feel triggered or uncomfortable about using it pronouns i totally understand and you dont have to use them).
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  • hi im megna and im gross. i like alot of weird internet things and weird art and vidja gaems.

    i'm very feminine and cutesy. i like to feel really tiny (im 4' 10'') and cute and stuff but i also want to bind because i have like -- really bad chest dysphoria and cut my hair super duper short. i sort of want to be seen as a feminine boy? even though i totally dont feel like a boy or identify with any conveniently masculine traits?? i dont really know its so hard to explain :-/ so yeah my gender presentation is a little bit all over the place but just know that i am a kitten and a princess :3c

    yeah i am a truscum but i support ALL trans idenities and pronouns.

    i have depression and pretty intense social + generalized anxiety, and also problems w/ dissociation and self harm -- pls tag any stuff about getting treatment for mental illness use w/e tag you want i can savior it just pls, also vomit/emetophobia.

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